*this post is a little all over the place, but i had a lot of thoughts that i wanted to share with you*
i wanted to start this post out by saying: if a relationship (friendship, boyfriend, girlfriend) is not benefiting you in any way whatsoever it is okay to cut them out.
of course this is much easier said than done..especially when you're still in school or if you work with them. when you see someone on a daily basis, walking by, having classes with them, it makes it at least 100 times harder to "cut someone out".
now, what exactly does it mean to cut someone out of your life? does it mean to stop hanging out with them as much, does it mean to be completely rude to them, does it mean you just do anything and everything you can to avoid them? i'm not quite sure if there is one single answer to this or if there even is a right answer. with experiences i've had i wouldn't exactly say i've handled them the best way, however i essentially did what i needed to do to separate myself from toxic people.
if you're a little confused on what exactly qualifies a "toxic relationship" i would highly recommend watching this video (i really love koi's videos and i definitely suggest giving him a watch because he has a lot to offer).
i have specifically two friendships in mind that i've had to completely cut out of my life. both of them were really close friends, and although it took me a while to realize that these people were lousy for not only my mental health, but also the sake of my happiness. i do not regret any friendships i've made as i've had amazing experiences and made awesome memories with some of these people, however once you've had your fun it is important to take a step back and look at the bigger picture: is this person really someone i want to be spending all of my time & energy on?
one of the biggest things i've noticed with these is the way my behavior changes when i'm involved with toxic relationships. i usually start taking on some of the personality traits of the person i'm around and as you can guess...that's typically not a good thing. it's important to remember who you are as a person and to stick to your beliefs and morals.
i know this post was a little all over the place and messy, but i couldn't really think of a more organized way to approach this topic so...here we are!
thanks for sticking around to read my blog!
xoxo,
-m
i wanted to start this post out by saying: if a relationship (friendship, boyfriend, girlfriend) is not benefiting you in any way whatsoever it is okay to cut them out.
of course this is much easier said than done..especially when you're still in school or if you work with them. when you see someone on a daily basis, walking by, having classes with them, it makes it at least 100 times harder to "cut someone out".
now, what exactly does it mean to cut someone out of your life? does it mean to stop hanging out with them as much, does it mean to be completely rude to them, does it mean you just do anything and everything you can to avoid them? i'm not quite sure if there is one single answer to this or if there even is a right answer. with experiences i've had i wouldn't exactly say i've handled them the best way, however i essentially did what i needed to do to separate myself from toxic people.
if you're a little confused on what exactly qualifies a "toxic relationship" i would highly recommend watching this video (i really love koi's videos and i definitely suggest giving him a watch because he has a lot to offer).
i have specifically two friendships in mind that i've had to completely cut out of my life. both of them were really close friends, and although it took me a while to realize that these people were lousy for not only my mental health, but also the sake of my happiness. i do not regret any friendships i've made as i've had amazing experiences and made awesome memories with some of these people, however once you've had your fun it is important to take a step back and look at the bigger picture: is this person really someone i want to be spending all of my time & energy on?
one of the biggest things i've noticed with these is the way my behavior changes when i'm involved with toxic relationships. i usually start taking on some of the personality traits of the person i'm around and as you can guess...that's typically not a good thing. it's important to remember who you are as a person and to stick to your beliefs and morals.
i know this post was a little all over the place and messy, but i couldn't really think of a more organized way to approach this topic so...here we are!
thanks for sticking around to read my blog!
xoxo,
-m